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They've been pen pals for 70 years. Now they hope to reunite after the pandemic

In the 1950s, Tom Telfer's father of Ingersoll, Ont., placed a penfriend ad in a magazine for his son. Telfer's name and address landed in the hands of a teenage lad in England. 70 years later, the pair is still writing, with hopes of visiting each other again once the pandemic is over.

Tom Telfer of London, Ont., began writing to Peter Hughes of Devizes, England in the 1950s

Peter Hughes and his wife Marion (left), with Tom Telfer of London, Ont., during one of Telfer's trips to England (Submitted by Tom Telfer)

In the 1950s, Tom Telfer's name and address landed in the hands of a teenage lad in England. Telfer's father had placed an ad in a stamp collector's magazine.

"I was about 14," said Peter Hughes from his home in Devizes, England. "My English tutor was not satisfied with the whole class standard of English. So he came in one day with a whole list of Canadian addresses and handed them out."

Hughes wrote a letter to Tom Telfer in Ingersoll, Ont. "We had to write the letters as an exercise, really, but we had to post them as well, which we did. A few people, they didn't get a reply, but I was one of the lucky ones." 

That first letter began a seven-decades-long friendship between the two men, now both in their 80s, who as teenagers traded comics and stamps.

"It was very special back in those days. To get a letter was really special," said Telfer, who now lives in London, Ont., with his wife, Patty.

Tom Telfer took this photo in 1958, en route to England to meet his pen pal for the first time. (Submitted by Tom Telford)

First visit to England just the beginning

Telfer was in his early 20s in 1958 when he first boarded a plane for Devizes, England to meet up with his penfriend of nine years and to backback through Europe.

"He was on his own, just a rucksack. And I thought he was quite brave," said Hughes.  

"I did nine countries in six weeks on the train," Telfer recalled.

That first visit prompted many more between the two men, who quickly became close friends, each travelling more than a dozen times across the ocean to see one another.

Hughes remembers getting a letter from a then-married Telfer with two young boys. "This letter told me that he was coming in with his family for a holiday. And could they come and spend four days with us," he said.

"We were delighted and very worried, because we've only got a small house. Another four people was a bit of a task," he said.

"We farmed the children out to somebody else," he said.

Reflecting on their friendship, the octogenarians agree they share a similar quiet temperament. 

"Our way of living bonded very well. Both the wife and I served in what we call the Boys Brigade over here," said Hughes referring to a Christian youth organization. "Tom was a principal to a school for disadvantaged students. And our interests seemed to mould in very well together." 

Telfer spent 25 years as the principal of what is now the Forest City Program at London Central Secondary.School.

An ocean apart, living through the pandemic 

Hughes and his wife have both been vaccinated for COVID-19. Telfer receives his first dose today.

After all these years, Telfer still calls and writes letters to his 83-year-old penfriend, even though he's decked out in all the new technology. He's even got an Apple watch.

As for Hughes? 

"I haven't got a computer," he laughed.

"We've just got the telephone, which makes it expensive. But we write letters and send cards," added Hughes' wife, Marion.

Telfer hopes to travel back to England once the pandemic is over. "Peter is like a brother. We could tell a million stories," he said. 

A 1984 newspaper article from The Wiltshire Gazette and Herald during one of Tom Telfer's visits to England with his then-wife Hazel. (Submitted by Tom Telfer)

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Rebecca Zandbergen

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Rebecca Zandbergen is from Ottawa and has worked for CBC Radio across the country for more than 20 years, including stops in Iqaluit, Halifax, Windsor and Kelowna. Most recently she hosted the morning show at CBC London. Contact Rebecca at rebecca.zandbergen@cbc.ca or follow @rebeccazandberg on Twitter.